I’ve been thinking about my friendships recently, and I’ve realized that I haven’t been able to keep a friend for more than 5 years…not that this is necessarily a bad thing, because I’ve heard the saying that if you’re not losing friends, you’re not growing.
I do realize that as I grow older, I’m forging my own path, just as everyone else is doing. Life pulls people in different directions, and sometimes I just naturally drift apart from people. But then I ask myself if that’s the real reason why I’m losing these people, or if it’s just because I suck at keeping in touch with them.
Regardless, I do realize I need to make more of an effort in reaching out to those who really matter to me…friends who have been there for me through thick and thin. From there, I can easily weed out the rest. Adolescence has not been an easy journey, as it should be. I can’t believe that at one point, I thought my high school drama with friends was the end of me.
I know that not everyone is meant to stay in our lives forever. Some chapters are shorter than others and that’s something I’m beginning to understand and accept. I hope that when I’m old and have a family of my own, that I still have some of my best friends from college. Sure, distance makes it easy to fall out of touch, but the friendships that can stand the test of time are the ones I need to start paying more attention to. I’m so blessed to have met some pretty incredible and amazing people in my life. And as I continue on my journey, people will come and go, but if a little effort comes from both ends, there’s nothing to worry about.
Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other’s gold.